Tuesday, June 1, 2021

Why did your goal fail?

How often have you set goals and worked hard to achieve them and yet, have faced failure? I have. Many times. There are many instances where I have worked hard a diligently, but it has got me absolutely nowhere.

When I spent a little time thinking about why it happened, it also made me realize what I could do to change it and achieve success with my next one. Today I’m going to focus on 3 most common reasons I saw recurring in my own failures.
Unrealistic estimation. I realized that I always over or under-estimated myself. When I look at what I can do in a day, I usually over-estimate myself. I put too many things on my list and end up feeling bad when I cannot check them off. I make a to-do list and mentally make up the deadlines throughout the day. It will take me an hour to write a blog post and then 10 more minutes to edit the required images. In reality, it takes me close to 90 minutes just to get started before I decide the tone is all wrong and I just press Ctrl+A and delete! So at the end of 3 hours, I am done with the writing, but need another 90 minutes to find the right images and another 90 to edit them. Now when I look at the clock and see that the whole day went by and I did not complete the 4 other blog posts I was supposed to finish today, I get deflated and just give up altogether. When I think of my business growth, I realize I usually under-estimate myself. More often than not, I am much beyond my own personal growth goals by the end of the year. I did find a great solution for this problem. Now I think with a timeline of one week / month/ quarter. I do not set daily goals; I rather choose my focus for the week to achieve monthly goals. If I do not write the blog posts on time, I can always back-date them! On my CEO day, as I like to call it, which is the first Wednesday of every month, I take time to make a list of topics I would like to write about on my blog. This is usually a very rough framework and my focus is on writing 3 posts a week. I just make a list of topics against the dates in my bullet journal. I then spend at least 90 minutes every day writing about any topic that appeals to me THAT day or time. Sometimes, I just find my mo-jo and write 5 posts in an evening. Sometimes, I struggle through the introduction. But my goal is usually achieved and I have 12 posts posted on my blog in a month. I also usually work in advance. So while you are reading this in May, I am already working on my June posts.
Not believing in myself. A lot of times, I have set goals, especially when it comes to financial ones, and failed at them because deep in my mind I have believed that I don’t deserve it. I have been working on my mind-blocks and I think I am getting over them. It is a struggle. I need to remind myself that I am worthy! I am as valuable. I find that while I do not struggle to price my physical goods – the quilts I make or the in-person workshops that I take – I do struggle with pricing my online services and feel that I have over-priced them. I had a really hard time pricing my eBook. While I made a lot of sales at the $24.99 price, I had to struggle to remind myself that it isn’t about how much I have spent to write it, but about the value of the content that I am offering. Now I just think if I would pay that amount for the item if I had the money and needed it. It usually helps me price my products and services better and also boosts my self-esteem.
Not having a plan. Before reading about the concept of SMART goals, I had totally no idea what I was doing. I was randomly deciding things like I want to grow my business or I want to earn more money but had no clarity or means to measure them. I researched a lot of goal setting techniques and then came up with my own which, since then, has worked flawlessly for me. You can join the masterclass that I am teaching to learn the technique that I have developed from my experience. Believe me, it works. To sign up, you can just email me.Do you also struggle with achieving your goals? Have you ever thought about the WHY? How can knowing the reasons help you? Did you find my tips helpful? Do you have one of your own? I would love to know. Just drop me a line in the comments section below.

Saturday, May 22, 2021

Goals or Dreams?


When we start a business we all have these aspirations. We all tend to imagine what  it would feel to crush our goals and wear the crown of success. But are your aspirations goals that you can achieve or are you just dreaming?

It is easy to think that something that you aspire for is your goal, but in reality, sometimes, it is just a dream. For it to be a goal that you can achieve and get the exhilaration of success, it needs to be a lot more evolved. How can you know whether it is a goal or are you dreaming?
Here are five questions that will answer that :
  1. Is it generalised? Something like “I want to earn a lot of money” is generalised. If that is how your aspiration is, it is a dream. For it to be a goal, you should be very specific. “I want to earn a six-figure income every month” is a specific  goal.
  2. Are you able to determine its value? Can you measure it? Is there any scale that you can use to measure how far you have come? No? then it is a dream. “I want to loose weight” is a dream but “I want to loose fifty pounds” is a measurable goal.
  3. Is it realistically possible to achieve? You know yourself better than anyone else. Is you goal practically achievable? This is an essential but frequently overlooked question. Think about your limits – inner as well as outer – and then decide whether it is a practically achievable goal. “I want to climb Mount Everest” is not a goal for a couch potato, but “I want to go hiking on that local mountain trail” is an achievable goal.
  4. Is it in line with your big picture? You should not have a dream just because everyone else is trying to do it. If you want to help the underprivileged, “Introducing costly courses” would be a dream, whereas “Offering freebies” would be a relatable goal.
  5. Does it have a timeline? Do you have a fixed end date in sight to achieve what you want to achieve? “Some day I will travel to Europe” would be a dream, but “I will visit London in the next 3 years” will be a time-bound goal.
The questions that I asked above are nothing but determining if your aspirations are SMART goals.
S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Achievable
R – Relatable
T – Time-bound
Once you have asked yourself the above questions, it will be easy to modify your dream into a SMART goal and create a road map to work towards achieving it. 
What does your dream look like now that you have made it into a SMART goal?